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Dating Advice: Avoid the Blamers and ComplainersExcerpt : Do you ever abandon yourself and get sucked into another's crisis? Do you take on their miseries like they are your own? If you are single, it is important to be on guard for dates who have a need to Do you ever abandon yourself and get sucked into another's crisis? Do you take on their miseries like they are your own? If you are single, it is important to be on guard for dates who have a need to blame or complain. They can be quite compelling in their story of sadness and can prevail upon your loving heart. It is important to distinguish between people who have come upon hard times and need a helping hand....from those who lead their life, one crisis to the next, and seem to need their problems to identify them. Be on guard for those who must tell one sad or crazy story after another. If they don't have something to complain about, they go looking for it. It's not that we don't all go through rough times. But these people hang on to them, nurse them, and get mileage out of them. Victims are those who complain all the time that someone or something is blocking their happiness, security, or ability to do what they want or need. They remain in a perpetual state of unhappiness, also keeping those around them in turmoil. They are unknowingly addicted to upset, and it's always someone else's fault. If you let yourself become absorbed by their cyclone of misery , you will not be available for the love and relationship you say you want. If you are a caring person who is a good listener, how can you stop a knee-jerk reaction to taking on the problems of victims? * You need reserves. Make sure you have your reserves of energy, money, happiness, and health, well stocked before you extend into another's territory of trauma. Set some safe limitations on what you can and cannot do. * Assess the situation. Is the person who is
having a crisis always in a victim mode? If so, refer them to a coach, counselor, psychologoist, or spiritual adviser. If the person does not want to get help to solve the situation, but instead, wants to put it off on you...beware. * Check your own ego. It may be flattering to be selected as the only person who can help, but you are setting yourself up to being in a quagmire of unsolvable problems. Even if you help the person get one issue resolved, 10 more will appear overnight. * Ask yourself why you need to get involved with a blamer and complainer. One question might be, "What is there in my life that I might be running away from that makes me vulnerable to this person's plight?" Do you have unresolved conflicts, and being around theirs makes yours seem small...or forgotten? Caring and kind people can become caught in the problems of blamers and complainers, and let themselves be used without realizing that they are not helping the situation...they are contributing to it. Stay present to what is important for you to focus on to make your life fabulous. This is how you attract and find someone wonderful. Someone who does not need to blame and complain. Visit http://www.tonjaweimer.com or http://www.singlesdatingtips.com for more tips, skills, and insight on dating, relationships, singles, and love. Subscribe to our F*ree Savvy Dating Newsletter from master single's coach, life coach, and syndicated columnist, Tonja Weimer. Copyright 2006, Tonja Weimer. (Please note source if reprinting this article.)
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